today we are going to talk about Friendship
Before I even start my these are some of the characteristics I deem necessary to even have consideration in the friendship category: someone that can be trusted, some one that is about having and OPEN AND HONEST relationship (friendship is a relationship), someone that you can be your true self around in all ways, someone that you are not afraid to show your emotions to and can let them know that you love them, someone who you feel like you can open up to and tell your issues and problems to, someone who will respect openness and honesty despite hurt feelings and attitudes, someone you can call on anytime and you know they will be there not just to voice opinion but to listen and care, and someone who you can have a conversation with and not even have to open your mouth to speak a word because you have connected.
The reason that I am talking about friendship is because people tend to use that word very loosely. In a clique of about 10 "friends" maybe you will find one or two and that's a big maybe that are your true friends, and are looking out for your well being and general interest.
I thought about this subject for a topic because I was thinking about how people that you say are your "friend for life" don't usually end up that way and sometimes we use loose associations and previous ties to connect us to people that really are in ways toxic and unnecessary in our lives in many ways. Associates and acquaintances, I think a person can have many of, that's what most of the people that we call friends really are they agree with you when you want them to, give you a little "support," boost your ego, and hang out at a club or have dinner and now they are a friend. But are they really? Friend it just sounds so much better doesn't it? For people to think oh wow she was so many friends she must be popular and loved, when it really is oh she loosely associates herself with several people but they don't have deep meaningful relationships besides certain superficial or scholarly things.
One of the things I realized is that I'm blessed when I can say that I have more than three people that really love and look out for me and that in those relationships and that fidelity is very much present. I even think that there are people that can go beyond that friendship level and become an extension of yourself. These people are my inner circle. When I need to talk at two in the morning whether it be over some stupid guy or simply because I can't sleep and they know what to say they are who I go to. When I need absolute and complete honesty and want that persons opinion and no they'll give it straight that's who I go to. When something important happens in my life and I need the support these are the people whose presence are there whether it be in a physical or spiritual sense. These people know my dark secrets and what I'm afraid of and how to make it better and where I can go and who I can speak to but a smile on my face in a dark situation. These are people who I can say anything to and it won't shock or surprise them because they know me and know my personality and how its ever changing. These are the people that are the epitome of a friend and if I don't talk to for a month we can still pick up the phone and have a three hour convo of substance.
Now those are TRUE FRIENDS to me.
Do you have any?
The reason that I am talking about friendship is because people tend to use that word very loosely. In a clique of about 10 "friends" maybe you will find one or two and that's a big maybe that are your true friends, and are looking out for your well being and general interest.
I thought about this subject for a topic because I was thinking about how people that you say are your "friend for life" don't usually end up that way and sometimes we use loose associations and previous ties to connect us to people that really are in ways toxic and unnecessary in our lives in many ways. Associates and acquaintances, I think a person can have many of, that's what most of the people that we call friends really are they agree with you when you want them to, give you a little "support," boost your ego, and hang out at a club or have dinner and now they are a friend. But are they really? Friend it just sounds so much better doesn't it? For people to think oh wow she was so many friends she must be popular and loved, when it really is oh she loosely associates herself with several people but they don't have deep meaningful relationships besides certain superficial or scholarly things.
One of the things I realized is that I'm blessed when I can say that I have more than three people that really love and look out for me and that in those relationships and that fidelity is very much present. I even think that there are people that can go beyond that friendship level and become an extension of yourself. These people are my inner circle. When I need to talk at two in the morning whether it be over some stupid guy or simply because I can't sleep and they know what to say they are who I go to. When I need absolute and complete honesty and want that persons opinion and no they'll give it straight that's who I go to. When something important happens in my life and I need the support these are the people whose presence are there whether it be in a physical or spiritual sense. These people know my dark secrets and what I'm afraid of and how to make it better and where I can go and who I can speak to but a smile on my face in a dark situation. These are people who I can say anything to and it won't shock or surprise them because they know me and know my personality and how its ever changing. These are the people that are the epitome of a friend and if I don't talk to for a month we can still pick up the phone and have a three hour convo of substance.
Now those are TRUE FRIENDS to me.
Do you have any?
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