I'm domestic
This evening I was chilling at my house and a friend of mine who is in town for the week came over along with a couple of his friends and a few of my friends stopped by. When they came over I happened to be in the midst of one of my many domestic goddess moments. I originally started baking because my niece asked me to bake her some homemade turtle cookies for her halloween party at school and she asked for a strawberry shortcake for home. Then after I got started I made rum cupcakes with buttercream icing for a party my mom was having in her office and a rum cake just because (which my company devoured half of). I was in the kitchen and they were in my living room and I was kind of in and out talking to them while I wrapped up my cooking and my friends buddy said "It's so refreshing to see a woman in the kitchen, and an educated woman at that."
So his statement caught me a bit off guard and I was like elaborate. So he went on to say that it seems that these days, women can't cook and are proud of it. So this started a nice little discussion amongst us and my friend came to the conclusion that when women decided they wanted to go out and start working and doing all the things that were predominantly male based, they didn't have time to stop and let grandma and mama teach them how to bake biscuits and fry some chicken. I disagreed with that hypothesis because I started out in the kitchen when I was five years old and my job from six on was going to the library on Saturday morning and getting a cookbook (along with my other reading books) and then coming home that evening and cooking dinner for the family, even if it was something as simple as grilled cheese and soup.
So another friend told me that myself and my other girlfriend that was there are rarities, especially me cause in there with a lace apron on and he hasn't seen anyone but his grandma wear one (lol I don't like to be dirty), because if we look back to when we were growing up it was the age of the working mother and mothers decided not to or didn't have the time to teach their daughters to cook. This means that young women don't choose not to cook, they've just grown up totally lacking the skills and never sought out how to learn (can you tell we are some geeks getting deep over cooking lol).
I was thinking this just can't be true. So I posed the question are you sure the women you deal with are not capable of cooking or do they just choose not to because they don't have time and don't want to? It surprised me when they were like they have dealt with women that can't cook and are proud of it. My frame of mind is why should women be proud to declare they don't know their skillet from their elbow? I then realized that I grew up in a household where my grandmother lived with me basically from birth until she died so I was always surrounded by cooking and was nosey and wanted to learn. It also seems that most of my friends were that way. In undergrad one Sunday all of my friends cooked a big Sunday dinner in our dorm and ate. In grad school we were famous for going over my friends apartment and bringing a dish (or a soda lol) and stuffing our faces and laughing and watching TV or talking. It's just something we all do and I assumed that others did.
But do women really think it's cute that they are lacking some basic survival skills. I mean it's one thing if you can do a little something but you don't enjoy it but it's another to be like my friends sister who is 23 and ate hot pockets the whole week her mom was out of town because she can't cook and doesn't plan on learning. I know some women are like I'll find a man that cooks but I mean really after a while he's going get tired of your ass. I'm not going to be frying chicken and making rack of lamb every night and being a Stepford wife. But if my husband or my man was like can you do it at least I can say yes.
So his statement caught me a bit off guard and I was like elaborate. So he went on to say that it seems that these days, women can't cook and are proud of it. So this started a nice little discussion amongst us and my friend came to the conclusion that when women decided they wanted to go out and start working and doing all the things that were predominantly male based, they didn't have time to stop and let grandma and mama teach them how to bake biscuits and fry some chicken. I disagreed with that hypothesis because I started out in the kitchen when I was five years old and my job from six on was going to the library on Saturday morning and getting a cookbook (along with my other reading books) and then coming home that evening and cooking dinner for the family, even if it was something as simple as grilled cheese and soup.
So another friend told me that myself and my other girlfriend that was there are rarities, especially me cause in there with a lace apron on and he hasn't seen anyone but his grandma wear one (lol I don't like to be dirty), because if we look back to when we were growing up it was the age of the working mother and mothers decided not to or didn't have the time to teach their daughters to cook. This means that young women don't choose not to cook, they've just grown up totally lacking the skills and never sought out how to learn (can you tell we are some geeks getting deep over cooking lol).
I was thinking this just can't be true. So I posed the question are you sure the women you deal with are not capable of cooking or do they just choose not to because they don't have time and don't want to? It surprised me when they were like they have dealt with women that can't cook and are proud of it. My frame of mind is why should women be proud to declare they don't know their skillet from their elbow? I then realized that I grew up in a household where my grandmother lived with me basically from birth until she died so I was always surrounded by cooking and was nosey and wanted to learn. It also seems that most of my friends were that way. In undergrad one Sunday all of my friends cooked a big Sunday dinner in our dorm and ate. In grad school we were famous for going over my friends apartment and bringing a dish (or a soda lol) and stuffing our faces and laughing and watching TV or talking. It's just something we all do and I assumed that others did.
But do women really think it's cute that they are lacking some basic survival skills. I mean it's one thing if you can do a little something but you don't enjoy it but it's another to be like my friends sister who is 23 and ate hot pockets the whole week her mom was out of town because she can't cook and doesn't plan on learning. I know some women are like I'll find a man that cooks but I mean really after a while he's going get tired of your ass. I'm not going to be frying chicken and making rack of lamb every night and being a Stepford wife. But if my husband or my man was like can you do it at least I can say yes.
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