She's gotta have it......

I absolutely love this movie from Spike Lee. It deals with a young woman, Nola, that dates three very different men because none has everything she's looking for, but each has qualities she likes. Each man thinks that he should be the only she should be dating but she is content in having all three. Each one separately is one dimensional but combined her perfect man is formed. Sort of a gestalt boyfriend. But upon searching there is still something missing and then there comes a point where the men get frustrated and tell Nola she needs to choose.

In life we often times do the same thing not only in relationships but other situations as well. We pick and choose certain elements so that when they come together they create the perfect situation or at least the facade of perfection. People have the the Mercedes, live in the gated community, are members of certain organizations and that creates what seems to be the perfect situation, but often times there is still an element missing. Something that could always be added to make the picture even more complete. Many times in my life I've dated (not been in relationships with) several people at the same time, where put together they equal what I desire as a whole. That's great and all for temporary measures but in the long wrong it's a waste of time. At some point you will have to choose.

This movie kind of shows that you can try to create what's perfect and what's satisfying to you. But something will go wrong and things will change and not always in the way you hope. You can continuously go out and try to create "perfection" and recreate it constantly or you can let your perfect situation find you and stop trying so hard to make it happen.

hmmm

going back to sleep now. obviously the cold medicine has me in analytical mode *smile*